Agree. no argument at all.concerning the children.
They suffer emotional, as much as the mother and father do.

Concerns should also be to the family unit. who else at 3 am in the morning is there for you?. Only your partner.
To lose that partner and the love from her,is also a emotional concerns that no one looks at.

Yes, agree the children are the focus. DOCs abuse is connected from children to parents,to families and to relationships.
Love is a Emotion,and under these conditions, reactions are done.
Trying to mend,what is wrong to what is right, nobody wants to take that first step to say Sorry,lets have a half way point,lets communicate on a mature professional manner.
Writing here I do in confidence, try writing a email to the WJ, was so hard. getting a response will be like DOCS, wont get one,that is positive.