Thank you Alisa, you taught me something. Until this thread, I had always thought 'terms of endearment' meant something that had to be tolerated due to social standards or manners.
I looked up the words and sure enough It's a positive thing.
I feel like such an idiot. duh
I can't imagine how I missed it being a positive, I guess I thought it was 'terms of endurement' whistling

Thanks so much. thumbsup