Hi All,

Have ya ever come on site & realized that you don't really have anything to post, nothing new has been posted by anyone else either, but you still have a hello, or a question you'ed like to put up. Sometimes the chat box is perfect for a hello, but it can also be limiting. And it hardly seems worth all the trouble to open a new topic just for one little question right?

Well now you can say a quick hello, or ask a quick question, or even just post things like your latest opinion of your fav tv show! All are welcome, please use this page for those times when the chatbox just isn't enough, & opening a new topic is just too much! Enjoy!

And to get the ball rolling, I'll be the first!

GREETINGS:HELLO ALL MY AUS-CITY PEEPS=-)

QUESTION: Has anyone else experienced a problem with the text box jumping around as you're trying to type out a PM,post or reply here on the AUS-CITY site? Where you can no longer see the sentence that you are trying to type, you actually have to scroll down to see the current sentence being typed. Then once you type the next letter, it disappears again! Does this sound familiar to anyone? Please let me know.Thanx.

OPINION:How about the season finale of Greys Anatomy?!!!!!
Ok, so I was totally prepaired to lose Izzy, everybody saw that comming. But Now O'Mally? Not my sweet O'Mally! I love him so much, the show wouldn't be the same w/out him. Nor would it be the same w/out Izzy-my fav character, but c'mon we knew that the show was trying to write her out. So what gives? Have we now lost both? I hope not, but the more I think about it, I think Izzy will probably live & now O'Mally will leave us...either way total bummer...I like my underdogs!

Nonetheless, That Shondra Rhymes isn't messin around...my girl can WRITE!!! GO GIRL

I'm happy to report that I haven't experienced the text box problem. I can't imagine what would cause that. Maybe Alisa or Webmaster can help resolve or fix it for you.
Afterall, They took care of my problem and I'm so thankful!

Wow you are quick woman!(BTW this is for Dawn).

Yep already let Alisa know, I guess it's news to her too, so I just figured I'd ask around.

I'm happy to hear that you havn't experienced this too, you've had ENOUGH bad luck on this site(& I mean that w/no disrespect towards Alisa or WebMaster, I can't imagine how hard it must be to run a website & iron out all the kinks!)! You are hereby obsolved from any more probs on AUS-CITY! Or at least that's what I will affirm for you=-)

Awwww... You're so nice... I accept your absolution with much gratitude. Now if we can just get the internet to agree. lol

I admire what Alisa and Webmaster must contend with to keep this website up and running. It must require major time consumption with all the technical stuff and also dealing with problems their members have. They must have the patience of the Saints. They're the best!

I hope you have your problem resolved soon.

Bless your hearts my dearest female peeps! I'm glad you both stick with me through all these messes and trials. True friends you are! Love to you both.

Oh, and I haven't seen Greys Anatomy. How lame, eh? But somehow I feel I will eventually, maybe 10 years from now, because I am only (get this ) watching Sex in the City for the virtually the first time, feasting on mass quantities of episodes that have built up over the past 10 years. I remember watching the first episode right before my son was born. After that...no time for TV so I just let it leave my consciousness. All these years later, I'm like...what to watch...hmmm Oh yeah, SITC! And it's kinda cute. Good writing.

Hello all my aus-city peeps! I hope you all had a celebratory Memorial Day holiday! My friends from the states that is. Mine sucked...my son Spencer broke his Femur/phemur(sp?) last Week!!! For those who don't remember it's the thigh bone, hardest bone in the body to break, especially at age 6!!! Here is my dutyful PSA...If any of your kids own a Pogo ball THROW IT AWAY!!! You know those bouncy balls w/a handle that you sit on & bounce on? Well that's how he broke his leg. He wasn't even a foot off the ground, & we have a "No cement" rule, grass only. Well he was following the rules, he hopped the length of the grass, went to turn around at the start of the driveway, & his foot got caught underneath the ball itself & as he twisted to turn around he snapped the bone right in half! A vertical spiral fracture... clean break. And if he would have applied any pressure to it b/4 getting him to the hospital, he would have had an out of skin protrusion(bone would have come straight through the skin)!

Oh you wanna talk about feeling completely helpless,there was nothing I could do for the pain until we got to the hospital. Luckily helping him balance his chakras b/4 the ride to the hospital helped keep him calm. Believe it or not,after that he didn't cry all night long, & this was hours b/4 any pain meds were administered! He did so well infact, that all kinds of staff unrelated to our case stopped by his emergency room to come shake the hand of the HERO OF THE DAY! They said that grown men have come in w/that same injury, & have cried like babies from start to finish, & they were so impressed that a 6 yr old could have that kind of injury, & be calm & not cry. They were truly amazed...their exact words " We have never witnessed something like this before, what a magnificent little trooper you have there Mom!"

So we were transported by ambulanced from Wyandotte Hospital to Children's Hospital in Detroit where he had surgery the next morning. Two titanium rods were used to peice his poor leg back together. He will have to go back in a year to have them removed once his bone is fully repaired! But for now, he is confined to a wheelchair, A walker, his bed & the couch for 6-8 weeks. Yeah, be the mom who gets to tell your 6 year old that his bday party(water activity party at a resort), has been postponed till the end of the summer!

We now have him on a tylenol narcotic(boy did I go back & forth on that one)after an unsucessful spurt of tylenol 3 w/codine!I know they're both narcs, but the former is ok for kids & the latter is more or less used for adults only. But if monitored closely I am able to give him the stronger one w/our doctors reccomendation. Now w/the new meds I can at least keep him comfortable. THANK GOD, MOTHER GOD, & THE UNIVERSE!!!!!!!

My poor baby, I remember in the first hospital I said to him, "I know you're scared baby, but I'm right here we'll go through this together!" & he responded to me "It's not brave if you're not scared MaMa!" BLESS HIS LITTLE HEART, that's what I've always told him in a moment of fear! It's amazing how we teach them these things through out life, hoping to instill in them, a sense of self security for the future, & right b/4 your very eyes they turn around & use it on YOU SO THAT YOU FEEL SECURE! Lesson learned...I'd rather have a BRAVE 6 yr old than a FEARLESS 6 yr old! God bless him!

So that's why I haven't been on in a while, I'm on 24/7 nursemaid duty. Today he is napping at an unusual hour which gave me the chance to keep ya's updated.I usually don't dissappear for so long w/out a heads-up to all, but this incident left no time for warnings! So here I am for now, don't know how long it will be before I am back for good, but I'll check in here & there. I hope everyone is well. Dawn it looks like you've posted some really interesting stuff, wish I had time to check it all out & respond, but time restraints...you know. I'll make sure to catch up w/ya soon though. Alisa, I miss you dearly!!!!! This happened the day after we last communicated, so I know I have alot of catching up to do w/you Lady! And just as you started to post again ... bummer! I'll get on when I can though, this is the first time I've been able to pop on in over a week, but I will try to pop in & at least say hi.OMJ, hello there. I don't know if you've tried to IM me lately, but my Yahoo IM was slowing my puter down so I had to turn it off for a while. But you can send me an email if you want. Miss ya, how's classes going? Will you get away for Holiday this summer? KIT!

Hello to Flux,Webmaster,KayBee,TVSAT & anyone I might have forgotten to mention!

I must go now, I miss & love ya guys, please enjoy the beautiful weather where ever you are, And remember NO POGO BALLS!!!!!

BLESS=-)

OMG! I even gasped out loud! Poor Spence and Mom! That would be tough to experience for you both. As a mother you want to take away the pain and you'd be happy to take on 10x as much just so they don't feel any. But that's not the way it works , so you both just have to be brave (rather than fearless I love that one!).

Bless his femur. Thank goodness for doctors that can repair. And sync I added that in my post about the Glowing Monkeys...



And I'm utterly amazed at the chakra balancing ... though not really. We know this stuff works, eh Jaim!

I'm thankful for the update, Jaim. I'll be thinking warm healing thoughts toward you and Spence. Pop in when you can. I love hearing your thoughts and I miss them. Even a little blurb when you get time will be a treat.

Hugs all around!

I'm sad to hear of your son's misfortune.
Bless his little heart.
My most positive healing thoughts and prayers go out to him for a speedy recovery.

I look forward to visiting with you here in the future, but for now, you take all the time you need to take care of your little guy (& yourself).

Thank you so much Dawn ! Boy I love the people on this site, my home away from home!!! Can't wait to read the haunted house post by you, I've lived in many . Thank you so much for your well wishes, you are so sweet!

Hope I have enough time to read the "fear" posts that you started, I've been wanting to reply since your very first post on it. Oh time, where does one find it? I wonder if you've ever tried to do any E.V.P.'S? I've had much luck in that area of investigation. I would love to hear if you've tried to contact the entities first to find out if they are any kind of threat b/4 considering fleeing? I guess I'll have to read more & find out the bones(lol) of the situation.

Again thank you so much for the affirmations,Bless you & hope to hear from you soon. I'll be readin ya!

Love & bless,

-Jaime-

Hey my girl,

Thank you so much for the warm thoughts. I miss you soooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo much! I can't wait til I can be back regularly again! I wished you lived right next door to me! I'm not kiddin, our next door neighbors have been blessings from God for us. And every time they do something touching for us I think, " I wish that was Alisa , david & little Wes, that way I could hug 'em in person!" Does that sound freakey? I'm sure it does, but when I think of all the time we spend w/them, my mind drifts, to how I would love to have that sisterly bond w/someone I already love. Not that I don't have that w/Joy, but it's different w/you. God I miss ya!!

Can't wait to read your recent posts! Lots has been happening since you've been back on!

Well must go the screen just started jumpin again! Wish you could see it!

Love & Bless,

-Jaime-

Hey Jaime,

You're very welcome!
It's nice to meet you and I'm going to try to get to all the posts and reply.

How's your son? I pray he's healing well and isn't suffering much pain. My most positive healing thoughts and prayers are with him.

Okay, I'm off to surf & post!

Wow, that was so sweet, Jaim! You've been on my mind (as if we ever leave each other's mind, eh?)! Little synchs and things keep happening, just at the edge of my consciousness regarding you.

We have a permanent connection that goes beyond this realm, but I also wished I was next door to you. There must be some reason me and all my peeps are so widely scattered.

Lately I have been getting the phrase "In time there will be no other". And I feel this means that the separateness that is felt between us all and God, etc., is fading. I get the idea of the accordion universe theory--where there was a "big bang" from which a density of matter became so dense it exploded outward and all things moved away until they reached such a point (potential) that they began to move back toward centre...being pulled as if (or by) a black hole so that all matter will condense again. Maybe this is how God grows. We all go outward, becoming separate in order to learn and grow, and then we bring it all back with us when we return and become "one".

There's so much more to say to you, but I think I tripped a fuse just now! Anyway lady, I love you! Thank you for you!

Was on for about an hour reading & typing. But now I have to go make dinner. I managed to reply to one post, I'll be back though hopefully later tonight.

Spencer is doing great, will give a better update later on .

Love ya gals...& guys too!

Bless

No worries, Jaim! Hope all is well there. We'll all just answer as we can, eh? Some days I have heaps of time and then other days none. Catch as catch can!

Yup, -as we can-, just as you said earlier Alisa. Sometimes I feel so guilty that I can't dedicate as much time as I used to to this site. But then I have to stop that quickfast & in a hurry, & remember that I need to give equal pieces of my pie to all. So I just do my thang, hoping to hop on long enough to read all that is new, & try to reply to as much as I can. Thanx for accepting my once in a while visitations, & understanding that my pie is thinnly spread.

Update on Spencebug: His first post-opp appointment was Tuesday. He did great! As a matter of fact the Doc said that he doesn't even want to see him for another 2 weeks, rather than once a week as originally planned.

Now he is lifting his injured leg all the way up to his face (while sitting of course), & slowly lowering it down onto the pillow without holding it w/his hands! My little trooper, what would I do w/out him! I do feel he is getting depressed though. The other night I awoke to him crying in his bed @ about 4:00Am. When I went in he wouldn't tell me what was wrong, he just said "Don't worry about it", which surprised me, as he seems to share everything w/me. But I let it go, I don't like to force an answer.

Later the next day, I found him crying again in his wheelchair. This time when I inquired, he simply cried " I waaaant to waaaalk!!!". All I could do is pick him up & sit him in my lap & hug him until he stopped. It's strange how almost 7 years later (tomorrow to be exact), the same things that used to soothe him as a newborn, are still the same things that soothe him today! A hug from mama. I hope it doesn't get too bad for him. I've been taking him for long walks in the wheelchair outside everynight to get him out of the house. Or he even enjoys sitting in his chair outside next to me, as I do the gardening. But the last two days in a row I've had indoor responsibilities that needed my attention, keeping us in. Maybe I should make getting him out every day a priority?! I bet that would help keep the depression at bay. I will from now on.

Well I'm happy to report that I haven't experienced the screen jumping thing lately. I downloaded some new security this week & ever since, the problem has dissappeared!!!

Oh & I'm sorry about the loss of both of your parents Dawn, I can't remember the post that I read it in, but I meant to extend my deepest condolances & a very big hug =-)

Well off to a birthday party! Spencer's friend Brianna(just down the street) is celebrating her 8th bday (which was bk in May)today. They planned the whole thing around Spencer's injury. They are having it at the bowling alley down the street from us so that we can wheel him down in his chair(since we can't commute him saftly in our car. We can't strap him in because of his injury, so we have to transport him to his med appts., in an ambulance. I felt way too insecure putting him into a car unbuckled, DR. visit or not!) So the whole thing was planned so that we could walk Spence there. Isn't that so considerate? I am sometimes baffled at people's kindness!!!

Well I have had a fulll morning of reading & posting. Thank you my friends for all of your interesting thoughts that keep my mind a turnin!

Love & Bless,

~Jaim~

Thank you Alisa & Jaime for your kindness in regards to my parents passing. I really appreciate it.

I'm glad to here that Spencer is doing so well. I pray he heals at record speeds. Bless his little heart!
Thank you for sharing your bittersweet moment of comforting him.
I believe most of us never get too old to want & need to feel the comfort in our Mother's loving arms (even after our parents pass-on).

Wishing you & Spencer a beautiful & relaxing weekend!

Wow great post, Jaime! It was wonderful and heartwarming. What a great person and terrific mother you are. You inspire me because you are so practical, utterly open, and immensely loving. I learn much from you.

And as I have said to you both...please give only as much as suits you to the forum. Anything you give is a gift and valued by me (and others). We all have to spread ourselves out to the many beloved things in our lives. I'm just happy that you both are lovely enough to contribute here as often as you do.

Today I am filled with much love & inspiration!

I am so appreciative for my family, such beautiful, purposeful, selfless souls. And our friends near & far...all of the same thread. I'm grateful for everyone in my life, for each has been placed here to accompany me on my journey & I on theirs.

I am grateful for the sun, the moon, the stars & the presence of God in everything that I see, feel, hear, touch, taste & experience.

I am grateful for everything I have learned & the lessons yet to be learned or taught by me, as I am not only a student , but also a teacher who is just still learning.

I am grateful for the trees, the sky, the sand, the grass between my toes & the birds who witness it all.

I am grateful for the cry of a baby, the laugh of a toddler & the love of a child.

I am grateful for the warm days & cool nights that gently take me to that other place, where I know I am from, where I am more than human.

I am grateful for beeing able to
'see', for some can't see what is placed directly in front of them. But I 'see' & from that I learn.

I am grateful for every soul that I have encountered in this wonderous world, for each is a reflection of me, & of God.

I could go on & on, but I feel that there is no need, my thanks is out there, in the universe bouncing around & becoming stronger with each bit of energy that I put into it...only to come back to me tenfold.

When I leave this world, I will take with me everything that I feel, everything that I've learned & everything that I AM, as I have become me over & over again, with a new perspective each time. And who I am will resonate here, as the love I've felt here owns a peice of me forever.

I am grateful for the chance to live, laugh, love, cry & BE. My soul is dancing & my 'love cup' runnith over, because of the people in my life & the life in my reality!

I thank God, Mother God, & the Universe for these things big & small, but most importantly ALL significant. And I thank everything in existance for the people, the friends I've met at AUS-CITY, for these people are my lifelines to my spirituality, growth & my drive to learn more about myself, as they teach me so much.I love each & every one of you!

For some these are simple things easily overlooked, by the hustle & bustle of life taking over. To me it is all that makes up this beautiful life, and with just one thing missing, life wouldn't be as sweet.

Much love & blessings to all I know, each & every one of you are very special to me in my heart, soul & being. I honor this life & every one in it

Beautiful!

I agree with, Dawn. Beautiful, Jaime!

I sooo agree with the stating and listing out our blessings and acknowledging what we are grateful for. I have done this as well and what a huge difference it makes! It can pull you out of any hole of despair. It is the single fix for me in all scenarios. Bravo, Jaime! Bravo!

Here is a bit from my running list of things that I keep pinned to the side of my bed and have done for the last few years to remind me of how to think better and to remain grateful and to bring more love and blessings showering down on me.

Focus 100% on positive. Diet from all negative thoughts.

Note only what I did accomplish.

Service without complaint. Fix it or accept it.

Take only that which I really want.

Allow myself to be helped always.

Be calm and assertive (thanks Ceasar).

Know what I want, state it, and imagine it continuously. Dig and dig to know what is truly wanted.

Assess -- Is it about me, or is it someone else's lesson and issues? If it is not about me, let it go.

Let go and Let God.

Listen. Be silent and still.

Whisper words of wisdom.

Be conscious.

Know that I deserve everything wanted and needed.

If confused, stagnating, or if inertia sets in, just move! Do anything and new perspective will occur.

Allow abundance to flow into my life unabated. Allow excess to flow out of my life unabated. Allow balance.

There are many solutions.

Love thyself.

For pure will unassuaged of purpose, delivered from the lust of result, is in every way perfect.

Flow with God's will.

God's will is my will.

Believe ---> Perceive ----> Receive

Think happy thoughts.

I am beautiful.

YES YOU ARE!

Thank you, so healthy, truthful & inspiring Alisa. I love you =0)

Aww, thank you Dawn. I think you're beautiful!!!

Thank you Jaime!

Allowing myself to be loved and loving you back!

SPENCER IS WALKING!!! After 9 weeks of recovery, my little guy is back on his feet! With a bit of a limp, but the doctors say that he will gradually loose it within a few months. I am so grateful, he finally seems like himself again. He was getting so depressed. I thank everyone for thier warm thoughts & well wishes.

Thanks so much for letting us know, Jaime! I was thinking about him lately and wondering if he was up and about yet. Yay Spencer!

Guess who?

T'is me who else?! I know I've been MIA for a bit so let me start by welcoming new member Orb Queen. Nice to have you here OQ, I'm looking forward to reading your posts.

Things have been quite hectic around here lately. I am happy to report that Spencer's titanium flexi-nails have been removed from his right femur! He has recovered from the break better than the doc expected & is now hardware free. His surgery was on Good Friday, in & out w/no problems. He's still recovering, but almost 100%.

Two days earlier I was at the hospital waiting out my brother in law, John's surgery. I have to correct myself on a mistake I made in an earlier post. My BIL John doesn't have Spinal synopsis, he has Spinal Stenosis - I confused the names. He did go in for that second opinion & found a doctor who would do the surgery. It was another success! Not only did the doc not have to remove the ruptured disc, he also said that the disc had calcified, which meant no further problems once the nerves were separated from the disc. He actually got to keep the disc that he thought was being removed. After surgery the doc, said that it went better than expected, this was the best case scenario & we couldn't have hoped for any better! He should be able to do more sooner, were his exact words.

A successful recovery & a successful surgery that went better than expected, in one week! I AM blessed.

Still planning a baby shower for my sister Jen...6 more weeks til baby time!!!

I quit my job on Easter Sunday. I am currently looking for new employment. I honestly could not take one more day of my boss's disrespectful mouth & unappreciative butt! I really started to resent the degradation & feeling less than zero every time I walked through the door of that restaurant. I know it's not RIGHT to quit a job before securing another, but in this case it was matter of being HAPPY, rather than being right. My self-worth & self-respect were on the line here & as mom used to say, " If you want a new job, create a space for a new job & the universe will comply.". I used to think she was crazy for saying things like that, now I realize that she knew exactly what she was talking about. Instead of worrying about the lack of a good job in my life & begging God to lead me to one, I've learned from mom that if I create a space for this job by letting go of the other one & I affirm that a great new job will come my way & trust that it will...then...it will. So many people are unaware that our intentions are what brings certain things into our reality. If I intend to worry & hope & beg & operate from fear of not having a job, then the intentions that I am sending out into the universe will mirror that energy right back to me. But if I rid myself of the job that creates such dis-ease in my mind & body & actually thank God for the great new job that is coming my way, then I've now created an open space for that job to appear. I know, sounds like magic, doesn't it? I guess it kinda is in a way. We are such awesome beings, that we can actually intentionally create the realities that we desire.

From time to time, I forget that I can do these things. I get so bogged down in the human emotion of things, that I forget that I am in control of how my life turns out, I am in control of the realities that I bring into my life. I sometimes have to remind myself that I'm not just human, I'm not just the physical being that I see in the mirror; but a mystical being as well...a universal entity. And as a universal entity I need to keep in mind that the laws of the universe play a bigger role in my reality than the laws of earth do. I have to remember that all of the doubt, insecurities, worry & fear (negative energy) that I put out into the universe, does nothing but bounce back to me creating more doubt, insecurities, worry & fear in my life. It's perpetual karma. So somewhere in all this I have to throw a monkey wrench into the spinning-wheel & stop the whole damn thing. Once I remember that I have the power to switch the gears & ride on the track that I desire, things start making sense again. I have decided that I will no longer wallow in my own problems w/a defeatist attitude, waiting for a change to come knock on my door. I will send out positive energy into the universe knowing that it will come back to me tenfold. I will create openings in my life for the things I desire, instead of expecting them to squeeze in where there's no room. I will again start AFFIRMING that more positive things will show up in my life, instead of ASKING for them to show up. I will thank God for what it is that I want, as if I already have it. AFFIRMATION, POSITIVE ENERGY & TRUST IN THE UNIVERSE...3 major things I have not been using to the best of my abilities, what a shame.

As I sit here proclaiming a new & much needed shift in my spiritual consciousness, I am hit w/a flood of memories or hints if you will, that the universe was talking to me all along & responding to my every demand. When faced w/the fear of not being able to find a job 7 months ago when I decided to end my 7yr run as a stay at home mom & go back into the work force, I got exactly what I asked for. What I kept saying over & over again as I was job hunting was this, " God just help me find a job...any job...it doesn't even have to be a great job, just something to put food on the table!" And that's exactly what I received from the universe. It wasn't a great job, but it put food on the table.

The night before my BIL John's surgery, I fell asleep affirming that John's surgery would go better than expected. The next day the doctor came into the waiting room & said, "It went better than expected!".

These are only two examples of what I'm talking about, but the first shows what happens when you ask & beg out of desperation - fear based energy. The second example shows how the universe responds when you affirm something as if it already was. I thanked God for a successful surgery & a successful surgery is what we got.

So here I am again, recognizing the glimpses of reality that I've created for myself. Wondering why I keep forgetting that I am so powerful, that we all are. And so I will move forward, putting out the positive energy that I know will come back, affirming the greatness in my life & making room for more. And most importantly opening & creating a space for greatness, by letting go of the negative & thanking the universe for the positive that I know I'm capable of bringing into my reality.

I'm glad to be back my AC friends, my hiatus was much too long. Looks like I've missed a lot, can't wait to jump back in. There are some new peeps for me to get to know & some old peeps to touch base with, & I can't wait!


I have to go make dinner for the fam, but I plan to be back on tonight to answer some posts & catch up on all of the new developments that have taken place since I've been absent.

Later,
~Jaime~

Amen to all that you said!

I understand how it is. How you create your own reality, but as you go through life it seems you "forget" and then remember again. What I think is happening based on my experience is that this knowledge has to seep into the many layers of yourself that exist, and each time it hits a new layer, the understanding becomes greater. Finally, critical mass is hit where enough of your selves understand the concept and it moves from a theory, into a belief and then into knowledge.



A sample diagram of the many selves


I love your understanding of the job and the example of what you said:


You have such amazing insight!

This example reminds me so much of an experience I had many years ago when I was with a boyfriend in a relationship that was not healthy and needed to end, but we both were addicted to being together and fearful of being alone. It was awful because I couldn't stand to be with him, but I couldn't stand the thought of being without him. It was tempting to think and hope that I might find another boyfriend to transition to before committing to end my current relationship. I was not only afraid of being boyfriendless, but I was also afraid of the pain I would feel if he found a new partner.

One day I had the clarity to decide that it just wasn't worth staying together any more, and I was willing to take any fear or pain I might feel being away from him. I asked him if he agreed that we were not right for each other and not happy together. He agreed. So I suggested we break up, but that we be kind to each other - where he could call me if he really felt upset and lonely and visa versa. But that we would not get back together, just give the other one encouragement.

We did this. And there were moments of nervousness, and I did feel upset/pain when a couple of months later he told me he went out on a date (and I was still totally alone with no prospects).

Almost a year passed and he was well on his way to exploring new people when I met Mr. Right. And I'm married to him right now (14 years later). Though I didn't have the spiritual clarity then, at some level I realized - I knew - that I had to let go of Mr. Wrong in order to open the space for Mr. Right to come in. There had to be a blank there. A void filled with intention for a certain person to fill it.

So it really reminds me of your job example, Jaime. It's kinda like stepping off a cliff and believing God will catch you even though you can't see God there. Or as you so eloquently put it: