This is what I am thinking at present...boundaries have served a necessary purpose in my life and in the whole world in my view. I can't imagine what would happen without them. It would be chaos as far as I can tell.

However, I am open to the fascinating concept that subtler refinement requires something else (perhaps a concept of relinquishment) as opposed to a boundary. Where in the end you vacillate/oscillate between left and right of an issue at a very fast speed in which you are not black (say left) or white (say right), but a grey blur. Something like that...

I'll tell you my example where I am applying this in my mind...sugar. I have one overt addiction left in my life that I am aware of (not including my whole addiction to breathing, sleeping, moving, reacting, being alive) and that is my attraction to sugar. I have tried banning it (it becomes more fierce). I have tried wild abandon with it (it becomes more fierce). In the end, I can only now conceive of living with my taste for sugar and somehow letting it coexist with me without dominance.

Coexisting fits several spirit lessons I've had. I am to embrace whatever I fear thereby integrating it into the greater mass of love that I am (and thereby enlarging the love mass even more with the emulsified fear particles). The other is to "focus 100% on positive and remove focus entirely from negative". So with the sugar attraction, I can integrate the desire into me (since it won't "go") and allow the larger part of me to outnumber it and neutralize it. And I can also remove focus from it...(oh, though that would require a boundary) and place focus elsewhere.

So this could be what relinquishment is - embracing the tendency and changing focus?


I used to think so, especially considering the books I read by Dr. Michael Newton that speak of lives between lives and the spirit classrooms, etc. I suppose at the moment I think that growth continues (perhaps infinitely), but maybe it is not in the form of lessons (not like the earth life lessons anyway).