Hi,
Oh Bella, that crap is just a ploy to keep you 2 separated. It is one of the many spoken (and not written anywhere) tactics of the department.
You have been doing well to hold up through this. And at the end of the day this child is your flesh and blood. He will be so angry when he is older and understands fully to the extent of how this has turned into a game - his childhood!!

Gosh, I hate this system on your behalf.