I can relate to those hooks! Amazing isn't it, the emotional baggage a parent can unwittingly pass down to a child? I've still got a matching set from my mom.

I find that alot of stuff my mom did to create those 'scripts' in my life take a daily affirmation to keep at bay. Some of them still affect me in a very negative way. She did take ownership of those things, & apologize about 4 months before she died thiugh, making it a little easier deal with.

I gather from your last line that maybe you weren't on speaking terms when she passed?