Re: above WantsJustice you need to document all this, the dates, what who said what etc. The outcome result. How you felt. How it is affecting you and your relationship with your family etc.

And if it makes you feel any better it is not you alone who goes through this. I would assume this is a normal family reaction through dealing with docs.
My personal experience is that my own family was divided. My sister (50yo) has invited my parents to her house for Christmas but not invited me. i had Christmas at my house about 2 years ago and that relative was invited here. I am black listed by this sibling. We were once close, close for some 40 years prior to docs involvement in my life. She blames me for my child being abused whilst in foster care "It was you (i.e. me) who rang docs so it is your fault that your child was abused in foster care. I personally don't understand her logic. But family dynamics.

So thanks docs, thanks a lot.