Oo, so I'm onto something! Well, I am aware that my conscience was not shared with my siblings. I have witnessed them take pleasure in other people's pain.

So serving others is not wanting to hurt others? Because I still thought of myself as STS despite knowing to respect others. After all, if I hurt others it hurts me, and I don't want to be hurt. How I always considered myself to be serving myself is that all of my motives, even when I give to others, is in the end because of how "I" feel when I give. Ultimately every move that feels right to me that I make is selfish because it is based on how it makes me feel. When I am serving others against my own will, I feel very angry.

For example, if my son's school asks me to proof read their policies for feedback, and I do this because I enjoy proofing things, then they are happy and I am happy. If they ask me to attend a bake sale or fundraiser, I don't like this, and if I went I would be miserable. Maybe they would be happy. But I can't do it for them because it does not serve my happiness.

So THAT is what I base STS on and why I say I am STS. Finally I have defined it!

So to get back on topic, we are defining the positive path, which is relinquishing unwanted emotions as opposed to banishing them, correct?

In the past I have used restrictions and barriers to shape myself and my path. Now I must see a way of shaping myself without barriers. Or is "shaping myself" even what I am after at all?