One does not "want" whilst serving others. Whether the want is for the safety or health of another, in reality this is still wanting for the self. Giving to another for how it makes you feel is still self servitude. This is the disillusion of many whom give to "feel good" and believe they are "doing good".
I think being alive is to
want. I think
want is another term for
will. If you want for nothing, then you would have zero motivation. There must be want at some level.
The "mirror" reflects all. To hurt another is to hurt the self. To give - to truly give - to another is the same. The universe is in perfect balance, thus if something is truly given, then by universal law, an equal return shall be received. And this returns us to the "faith" or "belief" as we have discussed previously.
Serving self
is ultimately serving others. It is the
only way to
truly serve others as I will explain. If I've had any repeated message from spirit it is that progression and ultimate fruition comes from serving self. And to me that is the path of ascension.
When you serve yourself, your
wants your
will is actually divine will (God's will) that is animating you, driving you. To become attuned to what that
will is, and to reach forward to fulfill it, is to serve God/creator, which is in essence to serve
all. Serving self is as close as one can get to serving others, in my understanding. As I raise my consciousness and progress, I lift humanity that iota and my own balance and bliss is reflected to those around me. That is what I give, my gift, the fruit from my fulfilled tree.
If one serves others in any capacity that does not align with their own personal will/want, then one is deviating from their intended purpose. They are cutting off a branch or giving unripe fruit to another, damaging self and giving out something useless, not using all of their energy to encourage their own fruit to grow and ripen. Ripe fruit falls easily from the tree and is the gift to all from your own self-fulfillment and self-fruition. It is the only truly helpful food/gift that can be given. And it can only be had by serving self through
will. Not only that, but by feeding another rather than self, one is now mucking in someone else's business and path of learning.
For example, if someone falls into a pit and I climb down to help them out, now I am in the pit with them. And they now can lean on me to help them out. They don't have to think and struggle to get out. Their consciousness is not broadened by the experience. (And apparently I already know how to get out, so I am wasting my time, otherwise, I have put myself in a pit for no good reason if I can't get out). They are dirty and tired, I am dirty and tired, and they have not learned how to get out of a pit on their own. Not only that, but their complacency at receiving help is now heightened. Their consciousness is dulled because they believe they will be helped out of a pit, or at least get some company down there, should they fall into a pit in the future. I deprive them of self-sufficiency and the self-confidence it brings.
So, do I throw them a rope? Well, at least that way I don't go down in the pit with them, but still, they will not have the intensity of motivation that they would have on their own, and thus their drive to learn and expand from the situation would be cut short. I would in essence be depriving them of an opportunity to learn something. I would at least be muddying their learning. I am actually hurting them because eventually they will have to learn how to get out of the pit themselves and next time the pit may be deeper and their mental resources to draw upon smaller because I blocked their development.
Do I yell down encouragement,give them feedback and verbal support? Sure. Why not. I do want them to get out. I do care about them whoever they are as they are part of me. But I want them to reach their fruition in as balanced way as possible as set out by their higher self, not according to my will. I do not want to carry them lest they learn not to climb.
Perhaps I might point out that the STO polarity does not imply slavery by consent, or any such similar notion.
That said though, one should not expect the asking or the task at hand to be either pleasant or enjoyable. It may be, it may not. It also depends on the individual - things need not feel miserable despite the (perceived) circumstance.
I don't agree that the task should not be enjoyable. It should be wanted and in that there is some form of satiation if not joy. Though I do agree that perspective of the individual can make anything pleasant or unpleasant.
"Must" is a considerably limited concept. But if you "must" then you must let go of this "trying", "wanting", expecting.
Perhaps either an example situation to consider or return to the concept to understand for the next move...
I am still interested in the concept of relinquishing rather than banishing unwanted emotions. I think there is validity in it.
I think we still differ on the validity of "want" though. I don't think we can live without infusion of want/will. We would be nothing but jelly. We would be energy without containment. My
want is to progress. Why? I believe it is the father's will, my spirit father. I received a message that true bliss is achieved when the (father's) will is separated from spirit. I think that happens at death.
